My wife Stephanie died of breast cancer in February at the age of 40.

Before she died, we had the opportunity to discuss many of the arrangements for afterwards. Among these, naturally, was selecting a tombstone. I had always planned (vaguely and in the distant future) to have my arms on my marker, and when I brought this up with her, she agreed. This nutty distraction of ours was never her thing, but she told me that over the years, she’d really started to feel a sense of ownership of the arms as a family identifier after emblazoning them on various craft projects for me and our children.

I think many of the men here owe their wives something for indulging this pastime. God knows I do.

Anyway, if it’s not too macabre, I thought I’d share the final product (as she knew I would) - a testament to her and her indulgence. The arms are carved, not etched, and in this picture the stone is wet, which diminishes the contrast a bit.

http://i873.photobucket.com/albums/ab296/bct74/Mobile Uploads/ThorntonStephanie13-2844_zps89c8515f.jpg

Ben,

Thank you for sharing this poignant memorial to your wife.  In some small way heraldry helps in the mourning and remembrance of those we love.  My prayers go out to you and your family as you adjust to a "new normal".

David

Ben,

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your wife; words fail me.

The stone marker is nice.

—Guy

Ben,

I am very sorry for your loss.  I shared this with my wife last night.  We both love the marker; very special.  Our prayers are with you & your family.

Condolences on your loss; with time the pain will pass, and the happy memories remain.

The grave marker is beautiful.

A beautiful stone in a beautiful setting. All part and parcel of a beautiful act of love (on both your parts).

I am very sorry for your loss. The marker is beautiful.

My deepest Condolences…..the headstone is beautiful

Please accept my deepest condolences on your loss.